Hey, I’m Sydney–the creator of In Bloom Coach.
I have 2 amazing kids who have inspired me to grow in more ways than they will ever know. My biggest goal in life is to show them they can create whatever they want in life and that everything is available to them.
I got married at 19. I hadn’t even begun to know who I was. I quickly stifled my intuition in order to show everyone it was the right decision, and also listened to advice from people I shouldn’t have about what I should and shouldn’t accept.
I can say, looking back, that I had completely abandoned myself (not that I knew it because I didn’t even know who I was yet). I was taught growing up that I should be selfless. While I appreciate this teaching in the right context, it isn’t helpful when you haven’t set boundaries and are just going with the flow of what someone else wants.
I wasn’t active in the church at this time and it took me a while to feel comfortable going back. I remember talking to a family member and saying that I always felt judged at church. His response was, “Well, people are going to judge you either way. But you aren’t at church for those people. You’re there to develop your own relationship with your Heavenly Father.” This really hit home and helped me realize I was the only one holding myself back. I shouldn’t let the perceptions I thought someone else had of me hold me back from doing what I wanted.
I thought I spent time getting to know myself after that marriage ended, but I soon found out I hadn’t really put in the work. I got married again, and it only lasted a few weeks. We dated for 2 years and had planned out our whole future. When that fell apart right away, I was devastated. I got pregnant on my honeymoon and didn’t understand why I had to go through divorce twice or raise another daughter by myself when that wasn’t my plan either time. But I soon came to understand the reason for all of these trials. And now I can see they were blessings all along.
I wouldn’t change a thing about my past. I truly believe our trials are given to us for a reason. I am so grateful that I put in the work required to learn from mine instead of letting them dictate how I felt about my future and hold me back.
As far as this business goes, I wasn’t aware of the dating coach field until pretty recently. Hiring my own coach helped me understand myself so much better. I was able to transform the way I thought about my future and what I wanted out of life. After a few months, I decided I wanted to pass on what I have learned and share my experiences to help other people. Now I see how everything in my life has led me to this business. I am 1000% sure this is my divine calling. And I am so excited to help you get to know yourself as well!